8 things NOT to do after a Breakup
Getting revenge
When
we are upset and angry, it’s easy to forget logic and let the emotional side of
our brain take hold, DON’T DO IT. Lying on
your ex, spreading rumors and doing spiteful things can get you in trouble,
your ex is not worth a fine or jail time.
Drunk texting and calling
Okay so you have no reason to talk to your ex, your
totally over them. You decide to go out and get a few drinks with your squad. Now
you are a little drunk and can’t put down your phone. You are typing a very
strongly worded also misspelled paragraph to your ex reminding them what they
lost. DON’T DO IT. It’s embarrassing and will make you look like you are still thinking
of them. Give the phone to a friend or just turn it off.
Rebounding
You just broke up with someone, this isn’t the time to
take all your feelings and thoughts and put it on the next person. Its not fair
for them to sit there through all your baggage. Deal with your previous
relationship first and get a clear mind before you try to look for the next. There
is no rush.
Don’t think about getting back together (at least not
for a while)
You broke up for a reason, trying to get back with
them is the wrong move. Let it go, it will make things so much easier for you
trying to get back will only complicate things. If you wait a few weeks and you
BOTH decide that you can fix things, then slowly get back together and work on
the things that broke you up
NO NEW FRIENDS
You do not have to be friends with your ex, not right
away at least. You don’t have to prove to anyone that you are over you ex by forcing
yourself to be friends. You need to have your moment to be sad and its okay to
keep some distance.
Don’t get caught up in the song
A good and talented artist will write a song from
their own real emotions and sometimes that produces a sad song. What people
sometimes tend to do is try to relate to these songs which will make your pain
even worse. Stay away from that playlist and make a new happy one. Don’t listen
to “our song” for a while.
You DID learn something
It might not feel like it right away, but you did
learn a lesson from this relationship. You now know what you don’t want in a
partner and you know what flags to look for. If you were the “dumped” that take
this breakup as a lesson in the fact that you know what you could work on about
yourself, if there is anything.
Put the dye down!
you were always blonde all your life but now that you
are newly single you want to make a dramatic change, so you head to the store
and buy a bright firetruck red hair dye, put it down and step away. This is not
the time to make such a change. Think it through ask a few friends first. Also,
any crazy haircut can be a little dangerous as well.
You are going through it right now and that’s okay. You
will learn to get over your ex and move on and it might not be right away, but
you will still get past this. It called going through it for a reason you’re
not going to get stuck you will survive this and will make it through.
