8 things NOT to do after a Breakup

Getting revenge

  When we are upset and angry, it’s easy to forget logic and let the emotional side of our brain take hold, DON’T DO IT.  Lying on your ex, spreading rumors and doing spiteful things can get you in trouble, your ex is not worth a fine or jail time.

Drunk texting and calling

Okay so you have no reason to talk to your ex, your totally over them. You decide to go out and get a few drinks with your squad. Now you are a little drunk and can’t put down your phone. You are typing a very strongly worded also misspelled paragraph to your ex reminding them what they lost. DON’T DO IT. It’s embarrassing and will make you look like you are still thinking of them. Give the phone to a friend or just turn it off.

Rebounding

You just broke up with someone, this isn’t the time to take all your feelings and thoughts and put it on the next person. Its not fair for them to sit there through all your baggage. Deal with your previous relationship first and get a clear mind before you try to look for the next. There is no rush.

Don’t think about getting back together (at least not for a while)

You broke up for a reason, trying to get back with them is the wrong move. Let it go, it will make things so much easier for you trying to get back will only complicate things. If you wait a few weeks and you BOTH decide that you can fix things, then slowly get back together and work on the things that broke you up

NO NEW FRIENDS

You do not have to be friends with your ex, not right away at least. You don’t have to prove to anyone that you are over you ex by forcing yourself to be friends. You need to have your moment to be sad and its okay to keep some distance.

Don’t get caught up in the song

A good and talented artist will write a song from their own real emotions and sometimes that produces a sad song. What people sometimes tend to do is try to relate to these songs which will make your pain even worse. Stay away from that playlist and make a new happy one. Don’t listen to “our song” for a while.  

You DID learn something

It might not feel like it right away, but you did learn a lesson from this relationship. You now know what you don’t want in a partner and you know what flags to look for. If you were the “dumped” that take this breakup as a lesson in the fact that you know what you could work on about yourself, if there is anything.

Put the dye down!

you were always blonde all your life but now that you are newly single you want to make a dramatic change, so you head to the store and buy a bright firetruck red hair dye, put it down and step away. This is not the time to make such a change. Think it through ask a few friends first. Also, any crazy haircut can be a little dangerous as well.

   You are going through it right now and that’s okay. You will learn to get over your ex and move on and it might not be right away, but you will still get past this. It called going through it for a reason you’re not going to get stuck you will survive this and will make it through.